Saturday, August 27, 2011

The Big 4-0!

Happy Birthday Daddy!

Last weekend we celebrated Billy 40th birthday.  The morning started with homemade waffles...
Then we gave him his present- a new mountain bike! I was so proud of the kids for keeping it a secret all month long. He can't wait to try it out.

In the evening we had a dinner party with his Bible study gang.  It was a fun night with friends and yummy food...

ice cream cake...
 

and games...
Every birthday is such a special gift to celebrate all our blessings and the gift of life.  We are so thankful for such a wonderful daddy and husband in our family!

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

When Life and Death Meet

Our life lately has been a river of emotions.

Our friend Lily had an exciting summer.  After a wonderful year in kindergarten, a week at Camp Care with her big sister Anna, and a week at Camp Firefly with her family- recent scans found that her cancer was growing again.  Her days on earth were growing short.
She just celebrated her 7th birthday in July.  On Sunday, less than a month after taking this picture with her sister, Lily tiptoed into heaven. 
It is hard to believe that someone so full of spunk, joy, dance, and song can be gone.  Sadly, cancer makes its own rules.  On Tuesday we celebrated Lily's amazing life and all those she touched with her wisdom, joy, perspective, silliness, and strength.  At the end, we gave a standing ovation praising God for Lily's life.  A life too brief, by our worldly standards, but a life well-lived by God's. Please pray for Lily's family in the days and months ahead. 

And in the afternoon on Tuesday, I went to meet two brand new little ones and welcome them into this world.  Our friend Annmarie had her twin boys.  Ethan and Noah made their grand entrance at 34 weeks, both over 6 pounds and healthy. Everyone is doing well.  New life is such a tangible picture of God's miraculous creation. It is a powerful thing when someone so fresh from God, grabs your finger and intently stares into your face with such profound love and hope.  It is healing balm to a mourning soul.
And that evening we visited with some dear friends from our homeschool group.  After their 9 year old son's vomitting landed them in the pediatrician's office, it was discovered last Friday that Joseph had a brain tumor.  Saturday morning he was in the OR and they were hurled into the world of childhood cancer in an instant. It feels at times like cancer is coming at us from every direction. I look into the questioning faces of my children and I don't have the bigger answers they are looking for in this life. I often find myself wrestling with the same questions. We do not know why we are in this place and why so many others we love are being thrust into this world.  But we know God has called each of us in a unique way and we trust that He will go before us and equip our hearts and minds for the journey.  He has faithfully carried us and we trust He will do the very same for their family.

Carter was eager to visit with Joseph to talk and play and know that he was okay. We enjoyed a sweet visit and time of fellowship.  Our hearts ache that they are in this place, but we pray that even some of what we have experienced can help or comfort them.  Please pray for their family in coming days and weeks.  They are awaiting pathology reports and we pray for the best possible outcome and wisdom for the doctors deciding his plan.

I leave you with this video of Lily and Anna dancing.  It brings me so much joy to see her with her sister doing what she knew best- enjoying life, spreading that love, and dancing. It is heartbreaking to realize that she is no longer here.

It is so strange to live in this place where life and death mingle, sometimes in the same breath.  Our family conversations often turns to heaven, dying, cancer, and God. The false securities of this world are being stripped away for our kids at a very young age.  The veil between life and death is very thin in our world, at moments it's completely stripped away. At times it all feels so raw and exposed, but in the end we know God is refining us and drawing our hearts closer to His.  We are seeing the world more like He does. When in the course of a day you watch one friend return her child to God's arms, while another welcomes hers into this world from His hands- the only answer to it all in the end is Him.  The only peace is Him.  The only light on the road that lies ahead is His.  

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Father Son Camping Trip

This weekend was the much anticipated annual Father/Son camping trip at our church.  As you can imagine this is right up Carter's alley.  He loves the camping, the playmates, the swimming, the hiking, the games, all of it.
As they loaded up the truck and headed out, he was talking a mile a minute about everything they were going to play and do.  Unfortunately it was also raining at the time.  They ended up having two brief rainstorms and rain throughout the night, but it didn't spoil the fun at all.  And the nice cool temperatures were a welcome gift. Happy to say, the rain cover on the tent works and their accommodations stayed nice and dry.
Where do you find the little boys at a campground? Around the fire with sticks, of course...
And when not there, then in the lake...

They had lots of fun swimming, playing capture the flag, and cooking.  After dinner it was time for s'mores and songs.
 
This has to be one of the best things about camping.  I miss these times at summer camp.  This video clip brings all those memories rushing back...

Untitled from Amber Scavo on Vimeo.

Now I just need to learn to play the guitar...

Then it was time to hit the hay.
After breakfast the next morning, they headed off into the woods for a hike...
 
their destination...

Taking a dip in the chilly mountain stream...

It was a great weekend for everyone involved.  Carter and Daddy returned smiling, happy, and exhausted. Such sweet memories...

Prayer Warriors in Training

When we pick up Julia from her class on Sundays at church, she always has something she's excited to share with us. For several weeks now it has been that she was able to lay on her belly again and it didn't hurt her c-tube. I never really thought to ask why, I was just happy her belly was healing.  One Sunday I just had to know why she was always laying on her belly.

"For when we're praying, Mom."

Immediately I knew.

This class of kids has been praying prostrate on the floor together for over three years now.

It all began in the Toddler Room when they were all barely 2 years old.  When their teachers would ask them to fold their hands and pray over their ritz crackers and sippy cups, dozens of little chairs would fly backwards and sweet little ones who had just learned to walk and talk were on their faces praying before God.

I am happy to say they never stopped.  They have surprised many a teacher since, but they have never been told they couldn't and so these humble little hearts continue to pray on the floor. Last week was their last Sunday in the four year old class.  Next week half of them will move on to the kindergarten wing, while the other half wait a year before they start.  It was bittersweet to see their five years of Sundays come to an end.  But I pray their bold style of praying never stops.  I would love to see them still praying together on the floor this way ten years from now. I pray the bonds they have made will last and they will continue to encourage each other. 

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

City Builders

I love being a fly on the wall when the kids are playing.  Recently, they converted the living room into their own city.
Complete with a large aquarium. Here is the live dive tank.  I don't know that PETA would be too happy with their crowded conditions.  I loved their discussion about who would be the host of the live dive.  It was decided that Olivia the Pig would do it because she was the only character with flippers and a mask...
This is the grocery store...
And the Science Museum...
I love getting a sneak peek into their imaginations.

Monday, August 8, 2011

Challenger Soccer Camp

So what do you do when you hit the hottest week of the summer in NC? Move to the North Pole?
That would really help, but no.  The penguin is Bob.  And he was the mascot for this year's Challenger British Soccer Camp. Carter was so excited to be going back this year. The 100 degree temps don't seem to phase him and playing soccer for three hours every day is exactly what he wants to do.

Bob, on the other hand couldn't take the heat.... 
We have loved all our past years with Challenger Camps. They expertly teach soccer skills, but more importantly they teach character- respect, responsibility, integrity, leadership, and sportsmanship are coached, encouraged, and emphasized in everything they say and do. The coaches are all top notch.  This year he had Coach Rachel (from Ireland) and Coach Rich (from the UK)...
They plan a week of fast-paced fun, learning, and competition.
The kids were divided into 5 teams that competed in a week long World Cup tournament.
They played their hearts out every day, all day.
In the end, it was Carter's team- Brazil- that won!! They were so surprised when the announcement was made.  It was a combination of game results, participation in spirit events, and character. Carter was very proud of his flag he made for Friday Flag Day.  That's it stuck in the ground in front of their team.  I drew the diamond, but he and Julia did the rest themselves with paint.
Proudly accepting their "trophy"...
Thanks, Challenger, for an awesome week! We were sad to see it end.  Thanks Rich and Rachel for all your heart, wisdom, talent, and endurance you poured into our kids.  I loved Coach Rich's comment on the last day about Carter, "That is one entertaining little man!" Oh, you have no idea! And he's like this 24/7 :)  Can't wait until next August! 

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Medical Updates

It's been awhile since we've had a health update which is a good thing.  Unfortunately we have not completely avoided doctor's appointments.  Julia's nightly cecostomy flushes have continued to go well.  She gets upset sometimes about having to sit in the bathroom so long every night, but overall is accepting it as just a part of her life.  She has the procedures down and can do most of it herself now.  They are still taking anywhere from an hour to two hours.  This has been hard some nights because she is just so tired and wants to go to bed.  I hate hearing her cry and beg to "please let her go to sleep". It makes me angry all over again that her cancer treatments left her this way.

Last week we had one long night of her flush failing to work.  After several hours everyone's nerves were shot and at 10:45pm we just threw in the towel and let her go to bed.  At this point in addition to the medication, her colon had been pumped full of 3 times the amount of saline.  I was expecting a mess by morning.  It never happened.  The next day, nothing all day.  I was nervous when we started the procedure again.  If it didn't work, we'd be off to the ER.  Fortunately it did.  We considered it a fluke and let it go.  Then Thursday evening, it happened again.  Not a good sign.  Fortunately she had an appointment the next morning with Dr. Hodges (urology).  I decided to let him be the one to take action.  I hated to go in with a bad report because everything has been going so well. 

We- okay, actually "I"- made the decision a few weeks ago to let Julia try wearing underwear during the day.  She has been under Dr. Hodges orders to stay in diapers for the past few years.  Her thickened and over-reactive bladder last fall led him to believe it was likely she was going to need extensive therapy to re-potty train. As her "momcologist" :) I decided that when she expressed her desire to "please be allowed to wear panties"(at the age of 5), I was going to let her give it a go and just see what happened.  She had tremendous success and has only had 2 accidents in 2 months.  I knew my executive decision needed data to back it up if I wanted it to be accepted.  Nurse Susan to the rescue! We began using a "hat" in the potty to measure her urine output.  It's crazy how much she enjoyed the challenge of filling that thing as full as she could.  We continued to follow the "must pee at least every 4 hours rule" and tracked her output for a week.  Turns out even though she has a bladder the size of a watermelon, she is consistently emptying it. I was hopeful Dr. Hodges would be pleased.  So off we went with our data in hand and problems tucked away in our pocket.  
He was very excited about her success.  Yay!! He also said we can try and take her off of the daily prophylactic bactrim antibiotic.  She has been taking it for over two years now- during treatment to prevent pcp pneumonia and for the past year to prevent UTI's.  Now that she is controlling her bladder and her colon is being flushed, we are praying the chronic UTI's do not return.  The only way to find out is to stop it, wait, and see.

Then we moved on to the cecostomy flush failures.  He decided to call Dr. Fortunato (GI) and get an action plan.  Unfortunately after two attempts he wasn't getting any response.  He looked at me and said, "You want an x-ray, don't you?" He read my mind.  For two reasons.  1) She is at risk of bowel obstruction at any point in life because of all the abdominal radiation she has received.   2) I want to know if her colon is impacted.  Fortunately they have radiology in their office, so a quick trip down the hall and we had the answers.  No obstruction, but a full colon.  We left with instructions to get through to Dr. Fortunato.  They decided we needed to double her medication and double the volume of her saline flushes for the next 4 days and call them on Monday for a plan.  This is not what we want to hear.  It is our hope to get her off the colon-stimulating drug or at least start to wean it back.  Doubling it is like a kick in the gut..... literally.  So we wait. 

Julia was so funny when we left the appointment.  "Mom, that trip was easy-peasy.  They didn't ask me to do anything hard.  Too easy." Apparently as crazy as her medical life has been this year, she is up for the challenge.  I don't think she deemed this one worth the travel time and copay :) I just pray this becomes more the norm.  I'll take non-invasive any day.

And as for me, the past few months have been up and down. I spent the late spring feeling really poorly and multiple doctors were at a loss as to what the specific problem could be.  It was discovered in July that I had adrenal insufficiency.  Seems the adrenal glands are not a fan of constant stress levels.  Mine decided some time after Julia's last surgery to hang it up.  I was put on supplemental adrenal, a regimen of vitamins, and an increase in my salt and water intake.  I had been doing some of these for the dysautonomia, but it wasn't enough.  I am now consuming 4 packets of salt a day, in addition to salt on all my food and drinking around 100 ounces of water.  I am happy to report that my blood pressure at last check was finally up to 100/60.  So much better than 60/40, but still low. I am beginning to finally feel better, but I know it will be a long road as my body heals.

I also had an MRI for the increasingly worsening back pain from the past few years.  It was discovered I have a tear in one of my disks and degeneration in another disk.  That explains a lot.  At least there's a reason I can't tie my own shoes.  I am trying 6 weeks of medication and physical therapy to see how things go.  It seems cancer takes a toll on everyone.  Sadly, it is a family disease and the ripple effects stretch far and wide.  On a good note we are all in counseling right now, too and everyone is making great progress.  We are so blessed to have such an amazing team of counselors, doctors, nurses, and caregivers. 

Want To Help Our Cancer Kids?

We have been blessed to have the privilege of working with the Kids of Childhood Cancer Foundation to help the kids at Brenner Children's Hospital who are battling cancer.
Our foundation is in place to help with medical bills, household bills, food/clothes/toys in the hospital, and one of our favorites... theme nights for the families in the hospital. A few weeks ago we had Cold Stone Creamery and Movie Night.  What could be better than ice cream sundaes and a Disney movie? 
Carter and Vinny playing one of their favorites- foosball...
Watch out for The Force...
And for just a few brief moments these families can relax, smile, and pretend they are "normal" again.  They can enjoy the simple pleasures of summer and time together as a family.
We may not be curing cancer , but we are doing what we can to love and support and love the families who are in the trenches right now.  Kids can't fight cancer alone! They need to know someone cares.  Do you want to help?

It couldn't be easier!

We have several upcoming fundraiser nights that involve nothing more than taking your family out to dinner or for ice cream.....

  • AUGUST 10th (Wed) COLD STONE CREAMERY in Kernersville or Hanes Mall, 3-10PM, 25% of all sales will go to KOCC Foundation. Just click here to print your vouchers to take to the store with you.
  • AUGUST 11th (Thurs) BUFFALO WILD WINGS: Wings 4 Our Kids, in High Point (Palladium) and Winston-Salem, 4-10PM, 10% of all sales will go to KOCC. Just mention our foundation when you pay.  Eat in or take out applies. Click here for a printable flyer.
  • AUGUST 18th (Thurs) THE LOOP GRILL in Kernersville, 5-9PM, 10% of all sales go to KOCC.
For more details or additional events, please visit our website. Please print out our flyers to hand out to friends and family or hang up at your office or other location. 
 
We hope to see you there! Kids can't fight cancer alone.  Together we can ease the burden.